Three Men & No Baby!?!

I'm sorry!! I meant, No DATE!! No date.... right.... babies come later! Where was my head?! ;)

Recently, I have had the pleasure of engaging in dating negotiations with three men. This is normal right?! Of course, this is not happening all on the same day! Jeez, what do you take me for?!? lol

Date-setting negotiations are good when they go something like this; Man of Interest: "Hey, I want to see you! What about dinner on Thursday at 8pm. I'll pick you up"! Me: "Perfect"!

Of course, this is how I would love it to be, but it has yet to be my experience for some time now! It is so nuts to me the extensive back and forth even when both schedules are explained!
It looks more like this:

Example 1.
Man of Interest: "It's been forever, when can I see you"?
Me: "Well, I'm in school Tuesday and Wednesday. I work from home on Monday and I'm generally free Thursday and the weekend. Still, just tell me what works for you"?
Man of Interest: "Ok, what about Tuesday"?
Me: "Bad Day- school, you know".
Him: "Did you say Wednesday was a bad day"?
Me: "Definitely not do-able Tuesday or Wednesday, UNLESS, I meet you in the city after my classes".
Him: "So, why don't we do this, let's meet in the city".
Me:"Sounds good"!
RESULT: We did not meet in the city. We did not meet! No DATE!

Example 2.
Man of Interest: "Hey when can I see you"?
Me: "Well, you're always in the city so maybe after I get out of class"
Him: "I'll be working until late, but why don't we try to meet in one of the other boroughs"
Me: "hmm That won't work"
Him: "Ok, when can I take you out, that will work"?
Me: "Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Monday"?
Him: "Do you want to play it by ear"?
Me: "What about Thursday"?
Him: "Let me get in touch with you on Thursday"
Me: "Ok".
RESULT: No communication on Thursday, No Date!


Example 3.
Man of Interest: "You know, I want to see you"
Me: "Really, thank you"
Him: "So when can I see you"?
Me: "I dunno"
Him: "What about Saturday"?
Me: "Wow, I have a full day and evening, but yeah, we can do that".
Him: "I'm not sure I can get to you at the time you said"
Me: "Oh, so you want to play it by ear? I see where this is going".
Him: "No, no, I can get to you, it will be fine."
Me: "Great"!
RESULT: Saturday comes and goes. NO DATE.


Um, dating is fun!! Now to get beyond writing it on the calendar and actually getting ON THE DATE!

Choose Kindness and Kiss Often!

Vicky

PS
These were not 100% verbatim accounts and if you recognize yourself in any of these accounts, let's take it as a shared lesson in communication, responsiveness, and accountability!

PPS
If you choose not to "want to see me" due to statements made above, I say, let's make a date and talk about it! :)

On Writing a Blog Finally...

I started a blog in August 2009 and before that attempted to blog via Myspace and less so on FaceBook. For some reason, I know NOW is the time!!  As I procrastinate and focus on this blog, I have set aside a project that seems to have been ongoing for a year and feels as though it could reach the culmination of phase 1 (of 3 phases) in as little as an hour! Um, yeah, I'll get to that shortly!! hahaha

I'm in my 3rd year in a Psychology PhD program in NYC and I am all about the challenge even as I face the fear (I don't believe I am actually fearful, but psychologically speaking, I probably just don't know that I am- or something like that) of moving forward! I think there is often those contradictions that reside in every person! I am a big believer of the Law of Attraction, and so I have no doubt that this PhD I'm pursuing is mine already- I just need to do my part (like finish this damn project)!!!

Still, now I know that this blog can possibly encompass all my parts, whereas before I was unsure how to bring my parts together in one place. And maybe, I even was unsure of my own desire to write about my academic life: classes, research, and foibles! Then, there was the matter of my personal life. I am a story-teller and I love a good story, so there are many stories to tell! Still, what about how others would feel about being part of my story?? I will have to trust my instinct on this one!

On that note, as I go about attempting to find a life-partner by actively dating (*cough- I mean actively setting up dates), it seems like dating is a series of misadventures, but, I have faith!! I also have the Laws of the Universe working in my favor! So, I'm not worried about finding "the one", but I do worry about my aging eggs!! Oh, poor aging eggs!!

Not to worry! At the end of the day, I have a blessed life with awesome true friends and an intensely loving crazy family. This is my life: school, dating, family, friends! And in my life, I choose kindness most times and offer that it is the best course of action almost every time! And if you can add a kiss or two, it would be all the better!


-Vicky